[Bboy.Maniac]

^what he said.

[Czril]

Originally Posted by BBoyM5 I have never heard of this "teddy bear syndrome" or whatever but holy crap I was tweakin out when I read all these. I would never have guessed it could happen but all of these stories are exactly what I would have to say. I guess we're not alone huh? I am kinda seen like a geek and I was kinda shy and everyone knew I was just kinda quiet and nobody knew me at all. Well this year in school was the greatest... I am VERY athletic and never showed it, and I mean really athletic as I Bboy and do parkour and stuff all by myself. A couple dances came around this year and at the first one I put my hood on in the middle of the dance, got the DJ to make a circle and I went out there for the first time in front of kids and I did crazy awesome. I had never danced in front of people but I had been Bboying for about a year before, so I had windmills, flares, backflips and all footwork down really well, (I've been doing backflips since I was younger anyway). Anywho I put my hood on and rolled my jeans up and went crazy, I felt the music and all went well, but it was a dance exclusive to my school and yet nobody could really figure out who the heck it was out there. Afterwards I walked away with the hood on and only a few people got to figure out it was really me, but the word sure as hell got out. I didn't hear anything but I know about it because people look at me so different now, they never saw it coming (in my school most have never seen a windill flare or backflip in person) Anyways, I guess I just told this story because I was always a nobody and never felt I had to show off or say I was better than anybody. I just went out there one day and did what I love to do... and now people respect me for it. I think you guys should try it this way, if your a Bboy (which if your reading this you obviously are), and you kinda have this teddy bear syndrome, ignore everyone, don't tell anybody and get yourself a circle and dance. If you want bring in a friend and battle him or something, but its what you love to do get out there and do it, people respect ya for it. I guess its a pointless story, but I thought this is the right place to tell it.

Haha nice story.
I'm not too open/trusting so I take my time to get to know people, I'm not the open guy that will come talk to you and joke around a lot.That doesnt mean I have no sense of humor its just Im shy lol.I'm more of a quiet guy I like to listen.When I'm done listening, I kinda get a feel of who's who and who I really wanna be freinds with.I'm not popular, simply because most people dont give a shit bout me(but that goes bothways lol), its not cause I'm an asshole or anything like that, if you talk to me I wont ever blow you off or look at you like youre shit.Come to me and ill accept you until I get to know you better.I make good freinds this way, seperate the people that are authentic from those that arent.Im a freindly person and hardly ever get pissed at anyone, I stay cool no matter what, I'm never a guy to start a fight, or even to get into one ; unless I get physically attacked, I can take verbal abuse lol that shit just goes in one ear and out the other never touches me.
I dont like to brag about what I do, I dont really talk much bout me to others except on a very superficial level until I know them.Even if what I do is good, I never feet the need to show off and brag about it.
People never knew me as a sporty type even though I practised Kung Fu,Jiu Jitsu and Ninjutsu for a year.(stopped Jiu Jitsu not really my thing, also stopped Ninjustsu simply because I dont have time lol.Just Took up Tae Kwon Do for the fun, Capoeira and Bboying(by myself atm) for the love of dancing.)
I'm generally shy, and hate talking in public lol dunno why.I'm also a nervous guy which I guess goes together with hating to talk in public.
The nervosity is the reason why I forced such control on myself as far as insults/fights are concerned, because I know if I lost that control i'd tick very easy and kill the shit out of someone for not very much.
I hold back in my attitude, it has its benefits.I have total control over my emotions even when I'm drunk.But it also has its downsides, I'm reserved and shy, Im holding back not really letting loose/being myself which gets in the way as far as getting girls is concerned.It also makes becoming freidns with people a long process, but at the end of the day that is worth it because I know all my freinds are real and wont ever fuck me,over talk shit behind my back,or do anything thats fucked up to me.
I love dancing, I never hold back when I go on a dancefloor unless I really dont like the track.I didnt ever care what people thought of me when I went to the dancefloor,I just do my thing, what I love(mostly random shit invented on the spot to hit the beat lol -> until I gave it a structure through bboying).
Now I started bboying, I really love the dance, I dont mind practising in public even if im a beginner(1 month under).Since I got no space at home, I'm forced to do that anyways lol.
Well there you go another random story that has absolutley no point to it lmao.

[CTracker]

Originally Posted by Czril Haha nice story. I'm not too open/trusting so I take my time to get to know people, I'm not the open guy that will come talk to you and joke around a lot.That doesnt mean I have no sense of humor its just Im shy lol.I'm more of a quiet guy I like to listen.When I'm done listening, I kinda get a feel of who's who and who I really wanna be freinds with.I'm not popular, simply because most people dont give a shit bout me(but that goes bothways lol), its not cause I'm an asshole or anything like that, if you talk to me I wont ever blow you off or look at you like youre shit.Come to me and ill accept you until I get to know you better.I make good freinds this way, seperate the people that are authentic from those that arent.Im a freindly person and hardly ever get pissed at anyone, I stay cool no matter what, I'm never a guy to start a fight, or even to get into one ; unless I get physically attacked, I can take verbal abuse lol that shit just goes in one ear and out the other never touches me. I dont like to brag about what I do, I dont really talk much bout me to others except on a very superficial level until I know them.Even if what I do is good, I never feet the need to show off and brag about it. People never knew me as a sporty type even though I practised Kung Fu,Jiu Jitsu and Ninjutsu for a year.(stopped Jiu Jitsu not really my thing, also stopped Ninjustsu simply because I dont have time lol.Just Took up Tae Kwon Do for the fun, Capoeira and Bboying(by myself atm) for the love of dancing.) I'm generally shy, and hate talking in public lol dunno why.I'm also a nervous guy which I guess goes together with hating to talk in public. The nervosity is the reason why I forced such control on myself as far as insults/fights are concerned, because I know if I lost that control i'd tick very easy and kill the shit out of someone for not very much. I hold back in my attitude, it has its benefits.I have total control over my emotions even when I'm drunk.But it also has its downsides, I'm reserved and shy, Im holding back not really letting loose/being myself which gets in the way as far as getting girls is concerned.It also makes becoming freidns with people a long process, but at the end of the day that is worth it because I know all my freinds are real and wont ever fuck me,over talk shit behind my back,or do anything thats fucked up to me. I love dancing, I never hold back when I go on a dancefloor unless I really dont like the track.I didnt ever care what people thought of me when I went to the dancefloor,I just do my thing, what I love(mostly random shit invented on the spot to hit the beat lol -> until I gave it a structure through bboying). Now I started bboying, I really love the dance, I dont mind practising in public even if im a beginner(1 month under).Since I got no space at home, I'm forced to do that anyways lol. Well there you go another random story that has absolutley no point to it lmao.

I was exactly like you! But I changed my basic character foundation to be more open and now I'm pretty popular.

What I mean is that I pretty much turned everything that was counter-productive to my succes socially to the other side. It took me 3 months to do this, though I made the most progress in this, this week.

Also keeping your emotions in check all the time won't get you anywhere quickly.
Even though I do understand that you feel comfortable in you trustworthy group of friends, you want to have as many social contacts as possible.
Because later in life, it's all about networking and being the one that holds the most information.

Just saying

And to add :
Result this week :
9 phone numbers
1 Kiss-Close
2 Dates
A whole new set of friends and social contacts that have some social advantages!

[ILLastrate]

lmao today i said. "Oh look, a hot guy!" and my gf looked. -.-

[CTracker]

lol, girls are always looking for better meat to grill :P

[Bboy-Supreme]

Originally Posted by CTracker Go read a few Pick Up Artist Books! Get educated and get out THERE! read it, learn it, internalize it, live it! Just to help you out a bit. Anyways this is just part of what I've been studying and using in the field. Got 20 more books about this stuff I'm multitask-reading. I wish you the best with you sparkly new training wheels. PS. as a very last piece of advice, DO NOT EVER BE A GIRLS DANCING MONKEY BEFORE SHE'S IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU AND/OR HAD SEX WITH YOU! No one puts value in things they didn't work for.

That depressed me. You gotta be dominant of your own views, be confident - this is another sign of dominance, showing that you know what you're doing, and be yourself - be congruent to who you are!

PUA's degrade women, and it's only good for very short term...

[CTracker]

Originally Posted by Bboy-Supreme That depressed me. You gotta be dominant of your own views, be confident - this is another sign of dominance, showing that you know what you're doing, and be yourself - be congruent to who you are! PUA's degrade women, and it's only good for very short term...

Did you read "The Game"? It's got so many subtle messages programmed into it. I'm reading it for the third time now and see it now.
What it says basicly is "Keep chasing after your true dreams, and don't get sucked into it cause you'll only end up old and lonely one day!"

That's why you need to know where the line is between being a PUA and being a Player.
Player is taking it too far and seeing women as an object.

Also, a real PUA takes the views of every single teacher and source and uses what fits his base character best.
If you're a nice guy in nature, you'll still be a nice guy when you get a girl. That's the way it is.
Same principal applies if you are an asshole to begin with

My goal for the coming 2 years is this :
To be is someone that knows himself and knows when to say no to a request if it's unreasonable(win-lose situations), and when to say yes if it benefits me as well as the other party equally as much (win-win situations).
That knows when to keep or adapt his views on life or subjects of interest.
That enjoys the journey more then his destination, and can get results effectively without breaking down someone else his persona.

This is why I got into the PUA world, to be a stronger persona and be more confident and less needy.

As of today, I've got a lot of female friends, but I don't need any of them, cause what I do in life is what makes me happy.

[Bboy-Supreme]

Originally Posted by CTracker Did you read "The Game"? It's got so many subtle messages programmed into it. I'm reading it for the third time now and see it now. What it says basicly is "Keep chasing after your true dreams, and don't get sucked into it cause you'll only end up old and lonely one day!" That's why you need to know where the line is between being a PUA and being a Player. Player is taking it too far and seeing women as an object. Also, a real PUA takes the views of every single teacher and source and uses what fits his base character best. If you're a nice guy in nature, you'll still be a nice guy when you get a girl. That's the way it is. Same principal applies if you are an asshole to begin with My goal for the coming 2 years is this : To be is someone that knows himself and knows when to say no to a request if it's unreasonable(win-lose situations), and when to say yes if it benefits me as well as the other party equally as much (win-win situations). That knows when to keep or adapt his views on life or subjects of interest. That enjoys the journey more then his destination, and can get results effectively without breaking down someone else his persona. This is why I got into the PUA world, to be a stronger persona and be more confident and less needy. As of today, I've got a lot of female friends, but I don't need any of them, cause what I do in life is what makes me happy.

But the words "Pick Up Artist"...what does that sound like to you? Think about it.

Sure, you can get many things from supposed "dating gurus" and "pick up artists" but these are TRICKS...they don't blend in to your normal being.

The most simplest way to go about it is to be as congruent to yourself and be as dominant as possible. Congruence is when you are in conjunction to what you do. For example: If you say to a girl "I'm a healthy person" but you smoke, she'll know you are not congruent to what you're saying. Dominance is not "bitch get me a coke". Dominance is your presence, it is how you show others your true self. If you think of the girl vs the man like a set of scales, society is conditioned to put the women higher up than the men - hence they have more worth. Now what we do is we make ourselves seem like we have more worth by getting rid of any hogwash, being confidence, witty etc etc etc and then she will be attracted to how SUPERIOR we are

[CTracker]

Originally Posted by Bboy-Supreme But the words "Pick Up Artist"...what does that sound like to you? Think about it. Sure, you can get many things from supposed "dating gurus" and "pick up artists" but these are TRICKS...they don't blend in to your normal being. The most simplest way to go about it is to be as congruent to yourself and be as dominant as possible. Congruence is when you are in conjunction to what you do. For example: If you say to a girl "I'm a healthy person" but you smoke, she'll know you are not congruent to what you're saying. Dominance is not "bitch get me a coke". Dominance is your presence, it is how you show others your true self. If you think of the girl vs the man like a set of scales, society is conditioned to put the women higher up than the men - hence they have more worth. Now what we do is we make ourselves seem like we have more worth by getting rid of any hogwash, being confidence, witty etc etc etc and then she will be attracted to how SUPERIOR we are

I like what you said there because that's exactly what every other Pick-Up Artist will teach you if you read between the lines.

I suggest you look up David DeAngelo, because he teaches exactly what you just said right there and the psychology behind it.
He doesn't even call himself a pick up artist since in his workshop the only pick up line he gives you to use are "Hey!" and "Waddup!".

I like his views on social dynamics a lot better compared to what Mystery has to offer.

Mystery teaches you a step by step plan to get laid.
David DeAngelo teaches character, body language and psychology.

[Bboy.Maniac]

this has turned from a social problems thread into a "how do I get a girl" thread. But good stuff, supreme. I like your attitude.

[Transcendent]

Pretty much every social problem for a guy is girl trouble.

[Bboy-Supreme]

Originally Posted by CTracker I like what you said there because that's exactly what every other Pick-Up Artist will teach you if you read between the lines. I suggest you look up David DeAngelo, because he teaches exactly what you just said right there and the psychology behind it. He doesn't even call himself a pick up artist since in his workshop the only pick up line he gives you to use are "Hey!" and "Waddup!". I like his views on social dynamics a lot better compared to what Mystery has to offer. Mystery teaches you a step by step plan to get laid. David DeAngelo teaches character, body language and psychology.

Michael Marks teaches you long term relationships, in conjunction to giving self-esteem, confidence and many things you would not expect

[CTracker]

Originally Posted by Bboy-Supreme Michael Marks teaches you long term relationships, in conjunction to giving self-esteem, confidence and many things you would not expect

I'll look him up.

At the moment I'm just a sponge sucking up everything that's psychology!
After I'm done with my Dance Teacher College route, I'm considering studying psychology after that.
So right now it's learning to know myself and my limits and learn how other people react to some things.

[Bboy-Supreme]

Originally Posted by CTracker I'll look him up. At the moment I'm just a sponge sucking up everything that's psychology! After I'm done with my Dance Teacher College route, I'm considering studying psychology after that. So right now it's learning to know myself and my limits and learn how other people react to some things.

Yeah thats kool man, just see what you think is best to acknowledge!

[pstreet]

yp peace to all the bboy s r u a power head or a style head