[Dyvine]

my friend (Shane) is a pothead! Dilemma: being a snitch?

so last year, one day at lunch i just sat down on the table with my meal, then i asked my friend where shane is going since i see him exiting the cafetorium. then my friend said he was going to smoke weed, and i just went along with it. After i finished my meal, i had to shit really bad and hurried to the bathroom. Then it smelled like some smoke, and i realized it was my friend shane's weed stench. Despite the smell i finished taking the shit, and later a bunch of students and teachers investigate whats going on in the boys bathroom. I went back to lunch as usual and just enjoyed myself. Then suddenly a teacher ask me to go to the office, and so i did. I got searched for marajuana and obviously im clean lmao. I'm a terrible liar and my voice got shaky while talking to the assistant principal and teachers, then i just said "i dont want to be in trouble for something i didn't do""so let me just tell you who did it, and they said "sure", so i told them it was Shane, i had no choice anyway. They got him and my friend (not shane) got seriously pissed at me and shane is suspended even though it's the last week of school till summer. most people don't know about this incident, but some people do, my friend didn't forgive me for being a snitch even though i regreted doing it, but obviously im a bad lier, so we seperated our ways. andddd i think me being called down to the office was a bit racist because..in the back of my head, why did they search the asian first? and my other friend told me shane is extremely pissed at me in his text, but i begged that im sorry i can't lie for my life.

so when sophmore year begins, I'm afraid Shane will shoot me at the first day of school if i ever met him again, or just an awkward conversation about the snitch thing even though i got in trouble for something that i didn't do and forced to snitch. WHAT SHOULD I DO? and one funny thing my friendgirl thought it was me the one smoking when i said " i confessed", then she said "so aha you did it", i said...awkardly , "i was gonna say that i was gonna confess that my friend shane did it", then everything went back to normal, till next year..when i meet shane again....hopefully not

[Bboy-Supreme]

Originally Posted by Dyvine my friend (Shane) is a pothead! Dilemma: being a snitch? so last year, one day at lunch i just sat down on the table with my meal, then i asked my friend where shane is going since i see him exiting the cafetorium. then my friend said he was going to smoke weed, and i just went along with it. After i finished my meal, i had to shit really bad and hurried to the bathroom. Then it smelled like some smoke, and i realized it was my friend shane's weed stench. Despite the smell i finished taking the shit, and later a bunch of students and teachers investigate whats going on in the boys bathroom. I went back to lunch as usual and just enjoyed myself. Then suddenly a teacher ask me to go to the office, and so i did. I got searched for marajuana and obviously im clean lmao. I'm a terrible liar and my voice got shaky while talking to the assistant principal and teachers, then i just said "i dont want to be in trouble for something i didn't do""so let me just tell you who did it, and they said "sure", so i told them it was Shane, i had no choice anyway. They got him and my friend (not shane) got seriously pissed at me and shane is suspended even though it's the last week of school till summer. most people don't know about this incident, but some people do, my friend didn't forgive me for being a snitch even though i regreted doing it, but obviously im a bad lier, so we seperated our ways. andddd i think me being called down to the office was a bit racist because..in the back of my head, why did they search the asian first? and my other friend told me shane is extremely pissed at me in his text, but i begged that im sorry i can't lie for my life. so when sophmore year begins, I'm afraid Shane will shoot me at the first day of school if i ever met him again, or just an awkward conversation about the snitch thing even though i got in trouble for something that i didn't do and forced to snitch. WHAT SHOULD I DO? and one funny thing my friendgirl thought it was me the one smoking when i said " i confessed", then she said "so aha you did it", i said...awkardly , "i was gonna say that i was gonna confess that my friend shane did it", then everything went back to normal, till next year..when i meet shane again....hopefully not

i think u did the right thing man. If you know it wasn't you that did it and you can't lie then telling them who did is better then. And fuck your friend, he doesn't seem to be a good friend if he gets mad over something like this...

p.s. how are ur shoulder halos coming along?

[Dyvine]

yea...dont like my school very much.. my shoulder halos...i should rename that to one legged flares

[Bboy.Maniac]

aren't one legged flares helicopters? LOL oh and man, you did the right thing.

[Dyvine]

embarassing that they searched the asian first, just because i had to take a quick shit got me framed lmao

[Bakut.Tai]

i need advice and help for future encounters.

i have been told that i am "cute" by quite a few girls but today was really crazy for me. see i have no game, i am usually the nice guy who doesnt get any girls and watches as his friends get girlfriends and such, so i am totally inexperienced with talking to girls who refer to me as "cute".
also, i am really awkward when i like a girl, i feel like i shouldnt do all the things that i do to just friends because then she'll think im weird and im trying to hook up w/ her or something...but that makes all the girls i consider just friends like me i guess, like i joke around with them and we hang out and stuff and we sorta just randomly push or poke each other, in a completely joking around friendly way but they begin to like me and then i alienate the girl i like...

but anyway back to my story.
so me and my cousins were standing outside of the park/community center where we session, just waiting for our ride and ranting on people that annoy us when out of nowhere some girl walks up to me and says, "hey could you go talk to my friend, shes really depressed and she thinks your kind of cute" then she just walks away. my cousins start laughing at me and im just standing there dumbfounded...and im still standing there dumbfounded when my ride drives up five minutes later.

WHAT SHOULD I HAVE DONE?????
WHAT SHOULD I DO IN THE FUTURE???????
WHAT SHOULD I DO WHEN I LIKE A GIRL OR A GIRL LIKES ME???????????

[Dyvine]

For ur last question be charming, like talk to her about anything intresting and become closer and if the girl likes u take that chance and become more than friends, unless she's mad ugly haha

[Bboy.Maniac]

^ how shallow

but man, i don't think this is something we can help you with. it's really a question of coming out of the shell. my advice is: go for it. i mean, you can't be anymore NOT in a relationship than you are right now.

[sheruken]

Originally Posted by Bakut.Tai i need advice and help for future encounters. i have been told that i am "cute" by quite a few girls but today was really crazy for me. see i have no game, i am usually the nice guy who doesnt get any girls and watches as his friends get girlfriends and such, so i am totally inexperienced with talking to girls who refer to me as "cute". also, i am really awkward when i like a girl, i feel like i shouldnt do all the things that i do to just friends because then she'll think im weird and im trying to hook up w/ her or something...but that makes all the girls i consider just friends like me i guess, like i joke around with them and we hang out and stuff and we sorta just randomly push or poke each other, in a completely joking around friendly way but they begin to like me and then i alienate the girl i like... but anyway back to my story. so me and my cousins were standing outside of the park/community center where we session, just waiting for our ride and ranting on people that annoy us when out of nowhere some girl walks up to me and says, "hey could you go talk to my friend, shes really depressed and she thinks your kind of cute" then she just walks away. my cousins start laughing at me and im just standing there dumbfounded...and im still standing there dumbfounded when my ride drives up five minutes later. WHAT SHOULD I HAVE DONE????? WHAT SHOULD I DO IN THE FUTURE??????? WHAT SHOULD I DO WHEN I LIKE A GIRL OR A GIRL LIKES ME???????????

First Question

You should have tried to make her feel better, I know I would be shy at first but i would eventually fall into the pressure of making her feel happy and isn't helping someone out of your way a benefit towards you?

Second Question

If there are 2 girls bring a friend with good confidence to break the ice eventually you might even get to know them better or even hook up with them. I'm not sure if thats what your question was as in referring to the future but there are lots of scenarios that are our there so you gotta be specific in that question.

Third Question

All i can say for this one is just try to get closer to the girl you like as in get to know them and eventually you'll grow on them to the point where they'd like to hook up with you.

[Murph]

Originally Posted by Dyvine my friend (Shane) is a pothead! Dilemma: being a snitch? so last year, one day at lunch i just sat down on the table with my meal, then i asked my friend where shane is going since i see him exiting the cafetorium. then my friend said he was going to smoke weed, and i just went along with it. After i finished my meal, i had to shit really bad and hurried to the bathroom. Then it smelled like some smoke, and i realized it was my friend shane's weed stench. Despite the smell i finished taking the shit, and later a bunch of students and teachers investigate whats going on in the boys bathroom. I went back to lunch as usual and just enjoyed myself. Then suddenly a teacher ask me to go to the office, and so i did. I got searched for marajuana and obviously im clean lmao. I'm a terrible liar and my voice got shaky while talking to the assistant principal and teachers, then i just said "i dont want to be in trouble for something i didn't do""so let me just tell you who did it, and they said "sure", so i told them it was Shane, i had no choice anyway. They got him and my friend (not shane) got seriously pissed at me and shane is suspended even though it's the last week of school till summer. most people don't know about this incident, but some people do, my friend didn't forgive me for being a snitch even though i regreted doing it, but obviously im a bad lier, so we seperated our ways. andddd i think me being called down to the office was a bit racist because..in the back of my head, why did they search the asian first? and my other friend told me shane is extremely pissed at me in his text, but i begged that im sorry i can't lie for my life. so when sophmore year begins, I'm afraid Shane will shoot me at the first day of school if i ever met him again, or just an awkward conversation about the snitch thing even though i got in trouble for something that i didn't do and forced to snitch. WHAT SHOULD I DO? and one funny thing my friendgirl thought it was me the one smoking when i said " i confessed", then she said "so aha you did it", i said...awkardly , "i was gonna say that i was gonna confess that my friend shane did it", then everything went back to normal, till next year..when i meet shane again....hopefully not

Dont snitch, yo. Thats bad news. You werent forced to tell anything. You had a fight or flight instinct and you dropped names. You could easily have played dumb to the whole situation. If they didnt believe you then tell em to piss test you.

What it boils down to, is that it was you who were picked out as being the shady one, not him. He probably shouldnt have been blazing in the bathroom, but regardless, he wasnt caught. You, recognizing the bathroom reeked of herb, still hung around taking a shit at the scene of the crime. You were suspicious, and he was discreet, so dont get him busted like that.

Im not trying to be a dick dude, but learn from this in the future. They had NO evidence against you, so your good to go. Just be happy this was in school and you didnt get someone arrested.

[cess]

Originally Posted by Dyvine my friend (Shane) is a pothead! Dilemma: being a snitch?

I gotta say, even after all these years schools are still the dumbest at handling problems.

[Bboy-Supreme]

Originally Posted by Bakut.Tai i need advice and help for future encounters. i have been told that i am "cute" by quite a few girls but today was really crazy for me. see i have no game, i am usually the nice guy who doesnt get any girls and watches as his friends get girlfriends and such, so i am totally inexperienced with talking to girls who refer to me as "cute". also, i am really awkward when i like a girl, i feel like i shouldnt do all the things that i do to just friends because then she'll think im weird and im trying to hook up w/ her or something...but that makes all the girls i consider just friends like me i guess, like i joke around with them and we hang out and stuff and we sorta just randomly push or poke each other, in a completely joking around friendly way but they begin to like me and then i alienate the girl i like... but anyway back to my story. so me and my cousins were standing outside of the park/community center where we session, just waiting for our ride and ranting on people that annoy us when out of nowhere some girl walks up to me and says, "hey could you go talk to my friend, shes really depressed and she thinks your kind of cute" then she just walks away. my cousins start laughing at me and im just standing there dumbfounded...and im still standing there dumbfounded when my ride drives up five minutes later. WHAT SHOULD I HAVE DONE????? WHAT SHOULD I DO IN THE FUTURE??????? WHAT SHOULD I DO WHEN I LIKE A GIRL OR A GIRL LIKES ME???????????

Man, first off i gotta say congratz on getting girls to say ur cute. Obviously it will not win u a girl just cause they think ur cute but they gotta take other aspects in2 consideration as well.

Such things like being totally self-validated (happy with who you are, not much you can change) show that there is nothing that will get you to change who you are, being so in control of yourself will mean that you do not need to lean on her for every problem you have - you don't complain thus showing that there is not much that can get you down. Also creating rapport with her (a mutual agreeement) on whatever topic you are talking about is crucial 2 take the connection a lot further. People want to stay in the safe phase but u gotta move, don't worry bout acting like a psycho, shows that u are willing 2 do ballsy shit!

If you were dumbfounded by this encounter then you should have gone over with the excitement and overwhelming emotion that you had and cheered her up - by creating rapport and making her feel like she is the only one that matters right now. Thats pretty much all you can do, you cannot run out of things to talk about, that is like an epic fail on its own.

For future encounters: Always create rappot with any girl you meet on wateva topic, be congruent - do not try and impress (being congruent means that if you say you work out 3 times a week and you do work out 3 times a week thts u being congruent...saying that u do when u don't is just lame!) and MOST IMPORTANT...put her in that fucking awesome emotion! She will remember the emotion, not a lot of the content of the encounter

Hope i've helped

[Bakut.Tai]

thanks guys, ill keep these things in mind

[bboybrake]

I started to like a girl 2 months ago, and we are good friends, i wanna ask her out, but i found out that one of my friends like her (one of my best friends)...this is the 4th time it happens

EVERYTIME I LIKE A GIRL, ONE OF MY BEST FRIENDS LIKES HER TOO!!!

what should i do??

[flappinwang]

Talk to him.

Either one of you should back off or she will get in the way.