[BBOY.STALL]

Originally Posted by giovannile07 Thanks man... I appreciate, especially from someone who has some similar problems, I've never found anyone like me. I know people that say their sensitive and they can relate, but I don't see that at all. Avu I guess I'd probably be able to connect to people out of school all the guys I know I never really show any of them how I feel because they're different even my best friends aren't like me at all, but we still get along. Still it would be nice to meet someone that has same problems like me. Like I'm shy with a bunch of girls, but for some reason when I'm alone with one girl it's so much easier to talk to that one girl then a bunch of girls together or even guys along too. Like honestly if I talked to a girl alone I could talk easier, especially because all the girls I know hang out from different groups. I want to talk to this one girl I know, but she's way too shy. I've asked her to hang out, but she keeps rejecting it because she says it feels awkward hanging out with someone she met online even though I see her almost everyday at school and say hi to her. She won't even talk to me on the phone, but she's pretty shy with a lot of guys compared to girls. She's awesome though. Yeah, I won't change I'll just not help her unless she asks me to help out or someone asks me to help out. I think that any less then who you are is not you. So.... yeah. I guess I developed a bit more to be gentlemen like because I never teased like any girls when I was young like 6 or 7 or played that cooties game or anything like that. I just think I'm a bit more mature... some girls say I talk all philosophical. Well, my friend also taught me how to talk to them because I ask a lot of questions I'm being honest I ask tons of questions when like I first meet you on AIM that is... Like I'll know almost a lot about you in one single day then later on I'll just keep asking questions one after another until I run out... Then soon on I won't have anything to say. I don't know I think that's one problem. I really just want to know someone in real life that understands me... I mess up so much with girls I like I start out from this pretty cool kid to talk to into this obnoxious kid. Only with girls on AIM though. I can hardly speak to a girl in real life unless I'm alone with her I guess, but that would make her feel awkward wouldn't it, but I'm not sure because I've only tried that like once or twice. I'll say more later I can't really think right now...

If you're scared to talk to girls. Go and talk to random strangers on the street, ask them for the time, if you're at the bustop make small talk. I used to be a socially nervous bitch, then i grew balls. If you're not ready for that then just smile at people you pass on the street. Not the goofy, slanty eyed, dribbling smile we all had when we were young but the cool, collective passer by smile.


Easiest way to know if a girl is interested enough in you?? Smile at her, if she smiles back/plays with her hair/looks down/ejaculates on the spot then it's you're time.







On a another note, i think i'd have at least one problem id post. No biggie, but i'd appreciate help.


*Obviouslythisisaboutagirlsojustfastforwardtothepr oblem*

Started talking to a girl in the corridor, we were making good convo and i was getting excited, then i ask,

"Where you going now?" And she replies,

"Oh, im going to meet my boyfriend." End of convo.

She knows i like her, saw her walking up the stairs today, made eye contact but i choked.


I don't care about her man, how would you advise me to deal with the situation.



Peace easy

[jonnyz]

Back off... You wouldn't want some guy moving in on your girlfriend, and if he was trying to do that you'd think he was a bastard.

[giovannile07]

Originally Posted by BBOY.STALL If you're scared to talk to girls. Go and talk to random strangers on the street, ask them for the time, if you're at the bustop make small talk. I used to be a socially nervous bitch, then i grew balls. If you're not ready for that then just smile at people you pass on the street. Not the goofy, slanty eyed, dribbling smile we all had when we were young but the cool, collective passer by smile. Easiest way to know if a girl is interested enough in you?? Smile at her, if she smiles back/plays with her hair/looks down/ejaculates on the spot then it's you're time. On a another note, i think i'd have at least one problem id post. No biggie, but i'd appreciate help. *Obviouslythisisaboutagirlsojustfastforwardtothepr oblem* Started talking to a girl in the corridor, we were making good convo and i was getting excited, then i ask, "Where you going now?" And she replies, "Oh, im going to meet my boyfriend." End of convo. She knows i like her, saw her walking up the stairs today, made eye contact but i choked. I don't care about her man, how would you advise me to deal with the situation. Peace easy

For some reason I only have a shyness with girls, but I think the most girls that I'm shy with are girls that I like, girls that are gorgeous, girls that are popular, and girls that I know in groups I don't know. The good thing though is I'm progressing slowly I can see it.

[BBOY.STALL]

Originally Posted by giovannile07 For some reason I only have a shyness with girls, but I think the most girls that I'm shy with are girls that I like, girls that are gorgeous, girls that are popular, and girls that I know in groups I don't know. The good thing though is I'm progressing slowly I can see it.

If you keep thinking like that then you've already lost the battle.


NO girl is worth your trouble. The simple fact that you are even considering talking to her is enough. THEY should feel nervous when YOU talk to them.



Peace easy


And thanks Jonny, even though i'm not gonna follow your advice XD

[Desi Boogie]

I've been skimming over this thread briefly, seeing what everyone has posted. Firstly i feel for you guys, i definitely do as most of the problems you guys are going through, i have experienced myself.

I've only recently started to find my stride as a person. I know it's an odd way to put it but i really feel like i'm starting to understand who i am, what makes me special, where my confidence comes from.

I have also recently found a girl who i'm REALLY liking. She's smart, beautiful, charming, absolutely fucking incredible when she's being intimate with me. And craziest thing of all, she doesn't know it. She's basically one giant mix of untapped potential. Nothing is more attractive to guys that unrealised potential in a girl. It's like finding buried feminine treasure.

But even without this girl, i'm still the same guy. I'm still handsome, i'm still smart, i'm still considerate, kind, a little bit cocky (lol) and i've got everything that makes someone attractive.

But most of all i have confidence and my own unique way of expressing it.

This is where most people get stuck i think. When you're in school you're surrounded by only a few models of what it is to be "cool" and "confident". Basically you only see guys acting like dicks and girls acting sorta promiscuous. A huge generalisation but it still happens.

Anyway, coming out of high school, you meet people from all different places, with unique personalities, different outlooks and suddenly you're not one of 180 or whatever in a year of kids, you're mingling in a university or college with thousands of others and nobody really gives a shit whether or not you dress right or whatever.

This is when you start to figure shit out. Push yourself socially, get in shape, talk to new people, bring down barriers, say to yourself "why not" when you see something you want to do. Go out there and find your confidence.

We only gain definition and confidence by pushing ourselves out of our own comfort zone. It doesn't have to be a huge leap, just little baby steps. But talk to people, smile, think the best before you think the worst. If you really want something it's as simple as claiming it.

I am not confident because i have anything you don't. I'm confident and assured because i'm doing all the things i thought i couldn't do before.

Peace

[NiSenNen]

Yeah, a lot of people's lives change greatly when they get to college. Well, not every college is the same but when it comes to mine, people are surprised. They are surprised that they can talk and chill with people they would have never approached before. How their possible social links are extended as far as they could see. All of a sudden, everyone is really on the same level. It's really different from that high school crap where people are stuck in their little groups from when they are freshman until they are a senior. Your school life does change a lot of things.

[Filley]

I am not confident because i have anything you don't. I'm confident and assured because i'm doing all the things i thought i couldn't do before. - Desi Boogie

Wow...that's deep. New sig for me!

[ghirm]

Originally Posted by giovannile07 For some reason I only have a shyness with girls, but I think the most girls that I'm shy with are girls that I like, girls that are gorgeous, girls that are popular, and girls that I know in groups I don't know.

man, i used to be the same way, and would think that i was in love with the "gorgeous" girl at our school. i've actually fell for a few girls that i thought were really really good looking, and i thought i liked them, but then realized that there looks were getting in the way of my getting to know them. And the funny thing is, the gorgeous girls are usually not as great as people think they are. the ones i met weren't very special, i felt like they were just pretty, and nothing else.

The pretty girls arent always the best ones to pick, because i've met some girls who weren't as pretty on the outside, but when i got to know them i was like "holy shit, you are WAY better then *insert hot girls name*"
in other words, don't let looks decieve you.

[ghirm]

Ok, who else gets really really angry at girls that leads guys on? or vice versa?

nothing makes me angrier then that.
I also hate sleazy guys.

I think the only thing that would get me to punch someone is:
1. A sleazy guy taking advantage of a friend
2. a girl that led me on

[BboyAiric]

naw
not me

[BboyAiric]

i do

[giovannile07]

Originally Posted by ghirm man, i used to be the same way, and would think that i was in love with the "gorgeous" girl at our school. i've actually fell for a few girls that i thought were really really good looking, and i thought i liked them, but then realized that there looks were getting in the way of my getting to know them. And the funny thing is, the gorgeous girls are usually not as great as people think they are. the ones i met weren't very special, i felt like they were just pretty, and nothing else. The pretty girls arent always the best ones to pick, because i've met some girls who weren't as pretty on the outside, but when i got to know them i was like "holy shit, you are WAY better then *insert hot girls name*" in other words, don't let looks decieve you.

haha but sometimes you see that hot girls are high status. most of the girls i'm into and talk to are average looking but even so i think they're beautiful both inside and out.

[FreestyleUnltd™]

Pfft, the answer to EVERY social problem.........















































Get some and call it a day.

[snoopy8]

ok, now i got one..... ok, so theres this girl i like, she broke up wit her boyfriend and for a while she kept calling me cute, then started acting like my girlfriend, then got mad for a while, we cool again and now she started coming to my house so that i could help her with some programming test, after studying, we would just be here for a while and watch some movies and all... we started talking and i got to know her a lil bit more, which made me like her more.... but then she also started to tell me that there was a bunch of guys that USED to be her friend and once they told her that they liked her, basically their friendship wasnt the same... and then she told me that she kinda still misses her exboyfriend... so, idk wtf to do :S need tips and stuff as in how to turn a girl from a friend into a girlfriend

[demonhand]

You guys have girls in your colleges? Now I'm sad. My program's a total sausage-fest... sucks for an introverted, socially unskilled guy like me. How would I meet girls from other programs? I don't have much time for dating or club activities, but I just want some female friends, maybe lay down some groundwork for later, I sure hope I'm not aiming too high. o.O

What do girls think about quiet guys? Am I disadvantaged or what? lol

Totally agree with Desi Boogie on... well, everything he wrote. Good job, man.