my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years

we were bestfriends when i was 12-13 and he was 17 and then we got together when i was 13-14 and he was 17-18 and now im 17 and hes 21 and we are so good for eachother... i don't know? age isnt nothing but a number for us

[b-girl Loan]

if you look around long enough. there's illegal relationship everywhere. well illegal to law. i personally think that if you click on an intellectual level then you're good to go.

[rayray]

you guys have a long relationship tho. you've known each other for quite a while, and know how each other work. it's better than just knowing someone 5 years younger than u for a few months and wanting to hook up. now thats illegal and a big mistake.

[Tahsanmj]

yea i thinks its weird cuz like idk if its a like a gurls mentality like" ok hey ima pimpette if i can get with this older guy" but to me its like wierd. cuz the dude cud b in it for the wrong reasons. thinkin the gurl is ez and ish.

[Zodiak Stizo]

well for ne psychology majors this topic is not too big. almost natural.

^^ very true

in rhode island its 15 with parental concent and its 16 is legal. why? I have no idea. its werid here

[Dasher]

b-girl Loan -"if you look around long enough. there's illegal relationship everywhere. well illegal to law. i personally think that if you click on an intellectual level then you're good to go."


Well said Loan. I totally agree.

[Mode]

it always bugged me when i was like 16 or whatever why none of the girls the same ages liked us guys who were the same age as them, they'd always go for the older guys. where i am it's usually something so trivial as the guy owning a car. i'm 18 now and i'm finding girls the same age aren't as trivial anymore. also, to mix it up a bit. what do girls look for in a guy? like rank them in order from one to five or whatever.

also, i dunno about the other guys, but i find the thought of an older woman appealing. say 26/27 kinda.

[Aura]

Originally posted by Mode
what do girls look for in a guy? like rank them in order from one to five or whatever.

also, i dunno about the other guys, but i find the thought of an older woman appealing. say 26/27 kinda.

My opinion on what I look for in a guy:

1- Genuine interest in knowing all about me:
"what makes me tick" Does he listen and respond? does he offer info about himself? Is he honest and sincere about his thoughts?

2- Independance & Maturity
(here's where I think the issue of girls are out for money and fancy cars come from. Maybe this will clarify for other females too.)

I feel that if a guy has a good job, pays for his own sh*t and isn't a momma's boy then that shows maturity and responsibility. To me it's not oh "he's got a nice ride Ima hop on that train"....hell no. I can take care of myself, pay my own bills and I expect my man to be able to do the same for himself. Now if a guy has a crappy job, no car and sponges off his mom to take me out.....then I see no future relationship. It's not about if he has money. Every relationship should be 50/50 straight up....
Is he trying at least? Maybe he has a crappy job, but is he going to school, trying to make ends meet, thinking about life down the road? Does he care about his future? Does he have dreams and goals? These are all things that show character.

3- How he treats other people

(Does he respect his mother? Help his family? How is he with kids? Does he want kids? How is he around his friends? Do I like his friends? Do his friends treat me with respect?
How a person treats the people in his life sheds light on how you'll be treated)

4-Compatibility
What do we have in common?
_music
_hobbies
_education
_style
_values
(opposites may attract, but some things can't be compromised or just plain turn you off)

5- Chemistry/Attraction/Romance-
Do I think about him when I'm not with him? Do I fantasize about him? Does he drop me lines to let me know he's thinking about me? Does he do/remember the little things that make me happy?

*There's alot to invest in a relationship. These are only a few things I think about.*

As for the age thing I still feel that girls mature faster then guys, which is why it's so common to see younger girls with older guys. It will probablt always be like that.

As for older women with younger guys(depending on the gap)........well I think the women just want to feel younger and the men like the ego boost of pleasing an experienced woman.

~My .02 hope that helps in some shape or form~

[B-Girl BaLi]

amen aura...

since this is my first post in this topic.. and BELIVE ME I HAVE ALOT TO SAY.. this will be a long post....

1) currently Im 18.. and i'm with/dating/involved/ in a relationship with a 22 y/o granted its not that big of a difference... btu my mom is still sketchy about it... she likes him an all but ... she is prally jus scared that b/c hes older he'll be more ready to settle down sooner...

2) i've had relationships when i was younger with guys who were 4-5 years older and they never seemed to work out... im not quite sure if it was THEIR lack of maturity/morality/ watever OR MINE.. but in either case... they didnt work out... as 4 the 16 and 20 thing.. i dont think its a big deal.. just make sure you KNOW what your getting yourself into

3) women like different things in men.. but for the most part these things reign supreem
a) RESPECT- super important .. respect 4 themselves, ME, and their family/friends (shows their maturity)
b) HONESTY- about who they are, what they want, and where they are goign in life. (if a guy is honest with me with what he wants in a relationship we are more likely to click.. I WANT TO KNOW HOW HE IS THINKING... yea im crazy)
c) do we share similar interest? is the conversation engaging? can we be in the same room with out BEING ALL OVER one another? is there a intamacy level that isnt PHYSICAL? does he care about things that are important to me SIMPLY b/c they are important to me *even if in reality they arent important to him?*
d) does he show an intrest in getting to know my family? *especially my twin sister?* is he nice to my family? does he talk bad about them behind their backs? can i deal with his family? are they "good People"? (like my mom always said... remember when you marry you marry not only your husband but the WHOLE Family.. make sure you can tolerate them)
e) How do i feel when he's not around? do i miss him? do i think about him constantly? when i see other atractive guys do i think about getting with them or do i think about HIM?

ok i think thats all for now

recently i found out that my twin sister is thinking about getting married to a 35 y/o guy.. *shes 18 too* i told her streight up that if she loves him an he loves her ill be all for it.. but he has to pass my inspection not to mention that if he's not willing to have me FLOWN out to wherever they are getting marreid she CANT do it... *my sister respects me for some odd reason... * i really dont have a problem with it... granted it'd be a lil odd but hey... i love my sister and if this guy makes her happy then OK im all 4 it... all i want in her life is some one to take care of her and make her happy... thats it ...

ooo an btw.. if some one is reading this *an they know who they are* GOD BLESS YOU .. and i love you

ok im done now...

[rayray]

haha i've never had a list of things i wanted in a guy. why i love my boyfriend? i dont know. we've been together for a year, i love him to death, i'd never want anybody else, buT! he's a complete weirdo, spends ALL his money of his car, total of abut $3000 just this summer, likes to burp and fart in public, makes stupid faces in EVERY picture...and the list goes on. if i had my little checklist i carried around with me for guys, this guy would be completely off the charts. i always wanted to be with either a martial artists or a bboy. i got neither. i think having such high expectations isn't for me. if the guy makes me happy, doesnt cheat on me and is generally an ok guy, it's fine with me. i go by feelings, not by material listings. i've rejected many perfectly great guys just kuz i didnt feel it was a good thing, even tho they were good looking with a job and a car honest nice and all that.

i like this thread ^^ *thumb up* good job!!!

for meeh, im 15 bout to turn 16 in december. i rather stay single for now. it so much easier, and if you screw up when ur going out with sumone, it really hard to try and fix it. if that ever happen to me, ill probally run and replace this pain with sumthing numb. but then again, i have to face it anyhow. i went out with this guy in 7th grade, and we barely even talk, i mean i do alll the talkin, he just stand/sit/etc...there, and when i broke up with him cause we treat each other like strangers, so why bother going out? i told him that is over and i ask him wanna be friend then and he say " no thank you...you're already a downfall for me". and im like WAT THE FREAK YOU JUST SAY?!?!?! MIND REPEATIN IT??? well if im a downfall, then what is he then? yeesh, that guy got problems and the nerve.

since this is also me first post here, wat i like in a guy is
1. funny..a good way to get to my heart
2. at least know how to cook sumthing...also a good way to get to my heart
3. wild, fun, energetic, not so boring, and WILD!!!..lol
4. they gotta be trust-worthy..dont you think so girls?
5. they also have to have a heart for things..if not BACK OFF!!! ur not in mah list..lol...j/p

g2g din din time ^^

i spoke to a couple girls about this and most of them say that older men can take care of you better then men that are at the same age as you...

another thing is that they are afraid that in the future their boyfriends would hurt them (you kno... wife beaters/abusers) .... so thats why ladies go for older men....


im not sure but i feel its quite true....... i mean i dont hurt beat/abuse women but it does make sense....

it seems to be easier to get a girl thats a few years younger then you IMO.

its like the older you are the more girls expect your maturity, responsible, atitude, etc. be more greater then theirs...


ahh.. im not sure how you females feel.... hopefully it some of this is true

i do sumwat agree with you BboyDiluvium. but sum boys that is the same age as your sumtime isnt that bad. but it quite rare thou. hard to find. -_-;;;..i rather not love and be happy then love and be heartbroken..any think this is true?

[CherryPie]

i agree with you rayray.. ive never had a list, ive always gone for guys thatv made me happy. (ha, if you look at my past list of guys NONE of em are alike) i guess just whatever floats your boat. i dont really have high expectations... just treat me rite and we'll go from there. with girls, its the same thing. ive got a crush on a girl now that makes me laugh a hell of a lot, n shes very cute. the last girl i hada thing for was beautiful and very smart. its always changing with me, but it works.